Originally posted by cali
eveyone will start yelling and screaming at her saying she is a terrable person etc.. and dont even think of denying it.
I just reread all four pages and I found no one that said she was a terrible person. I found many people, however, that said she was acting irresponsibly.

This is called constructive criticism. We are trying to help her see why what she's doing is messed up. We're not saying "Tina, you're stupid!" or "You suck!" - that is mean, as well as unnecessary. Let me try to put it into something on your level...

... If you stay out past your curfew, what do your parents do when you finally get home? Say "Cali, you suck!" and that's it? No. They probably tell you why what you did was IRRESPONSIBLE, why they're disappointed, and then discipline you in some fashion.

That's exactly what we're trying to do, save the discipline. We're letting her know that what she's doing is irresponsible and why we're disappointed, and hoping that one of these days what we say actually sticks and this situation doesn't repeat itself over and over and over and...