It seems to me your trying to fill some void with these animals but you have a pretty full load already. I am 43 and have 2 daughters and 2 dogs. My cat gigi recently died, I had her for 14 years and I am soooo hesitant to replace her and god how I ache to get another kitty. I am not trying to be judgemental just giving you an older more experience point of view, your current kids...skin and fur need your full attention right now...I think if you really dedicate yourself to nurturing them that you will help yourself also.

Don't forget...adoption is a life long committment.