I am sorry for all of you that have lost your parents. I'm very fortunate to still have mine. I cannot imagine the pain you're going through and dread it when it's my time. Judy, I couldn't get myself to go visit my grandmother in the hospital. It would have killed me to see her that way. The night after she died, I dreamed she visited me and was wearing a brightly colored flowered dress. I told her that looked much better than a hospital gown. I hope you eventually find peace and at least your dad knew everyone was there for him before he left.