To begin with, I didn't want our cat in the bed at all! (I have not really lived with cats before) my husband has been used to it all his life. Well, but who are we; trying to decide that!! LOL Fister jumps in every single night. He will lay on my husband while watching TV or reading, and if he can, he will prevent him turning the pages or lie on the remote to get some attention, but when I lay down to go to sleep, Fister will come over immediately and make himself very comfortable on half my pillow. I guess he thinks I'm moving too much around before that. Then, when he thinks I've fallen asleep, he starts washing himself but stops when I turn my head. (he knows by now that we don't like him doing it there) He usually stays for about 20 minutes - sometimes even 2-3 hours now! The few times he didn't come, I missed him and couldn't go to sleep I think he spends the rest of the night on the bathroom rug, under our wardrobe or in his own bed - and part of the time looking out of the window.