I still have to agree with everyone that the boyfriend has to go, especially after reading more about him But, I also do know that people like her feel like they are in love (either that or they feel that this is the best they can do for a mate...low self esteem possibly? A good girl friend of mine is in the same situation...I know she could do better, but she has just settled) and have to make sacrafices. However, in light of new information about Michael having a dog and such...this just says to me loud and clear that he will be the taker in this relationship. It's awsome that the cats get along with the dog! There's a huge hurdle right there that most people would have to deal with. The adjustment period of the cats getting used to the dog and vice versa. The key to any relationship is communication, and the fact that it's a two way street. Why should she have to give up her cats if he "hates" them. What if she hated dogs?? I also agree with the whole rug front...leave them curled up and put away until everyone has adjusted. A compromise like Karen suggested would be ideal, and it's always best to hope for the best possible situation of him being converted into a cat lover. If it doesn't look that promising, however...looking into rescue groups on behalf of the kittie's well being might be an option...
Let us know what happens! **hugs**