Kay ann , We here are keeping you and the kids in our thoughts and prayers . Sounds like a good time to remain in your room with the kids, I know about not helpful relitives , we just had every one here for a wedding. I remembered a little thing I did as a kid ( I couldn't handle these relitves then eather) I find a picture in my mind a place I felt safe and comfy with my favorite dog. them I pictured myself there too. Amazing how you can then tune out the annyoing comments and such. Hope it helps . Sorry your parents arn't listening to your fears.