I'm glad I wasn't the only one who thinks this is crappy of a friend to do. I'm not against my friends dating people I've dated. I can see that a lot of people are even more against it than I am! But, yeah, for me, it's not so much hands off anyone I've ever dated. It's hands off anyone I still have feelings for, or would be bothered by a friend dating. I mean, shoot, my ex husband could marry my best friend and it wouldn't bother me, because i have no feelings for him whatsoever! i really appreciate everyone's input, though. i'm just chillin' with the situation i'm in. I work with the guy and won't ignore him, so, when he emailed me today, i responded. but, he asked me if we were still friends and i told him i wasn't sure who my friends were, but, that i'd let him know once i figured it out. as for her, i told her how i felt and left it in her hands. i'm outta there until whenever. if it's meant to be, it'll happen. so, i'll keep you posted, though if anything comes up. thanks again everyone.