Best wishes to you and yours...you never know how things will work out. I think some boy interaction will teach her to hold her ground and be a bit braver. Nuertic is in the eye of the beholder. My boys are technically in that they "jump" (read tear out) at the slightest noise...usually leaving mum with some deep track wounds. I keep telling them nothing can or ever has hurt you in this home...what's the big deal?? oy...you'd think the'd been beatin their whole lives!! Change of life might be just the ticket for the kitty.
Claudia