i think if i talked to him about it he would just get all defensive and try to delete the messages then deny the whole thing...he's not the kind of person you can talk to and he'll admit he was wrong and try to do better. he would just get mad at me for reading it and be more secretive. my mom says she's going to talk to him abou tit, and that she suspected maybe he was on the computer away from everybody too much, but that she didn't want to pry and be all nosy because she had nothing really against him...