Thank you jazzcat Feliway sounds interesting.I will look into it.You are both making me feel much better.Wow I am so messed up with dates.I just realized they have only been with me for 5 weeks-see I have known them since 9weeks of age but only visited occaisionally before they lived here as they had allergies where they lived and who knows what would have happened to them if I didn't take them(long story) any way when they came they were fine so I guess this has actually only been going on a couple of weeks it just seems longer because he was great for a long time when we first got them.I can't believe it feels like they have been my babies forever,I decided to check the calendar for the day they came and it is 5 weeks today,such a short time.I guess I worry to much anyway I just want to be the best mom ,gramma to these babies.I llove them so much and even though they are brother and siste I must remember they are individuals and different with their own personalities.He wasn't like this in his other home or the first few weeks we had him.It has just been these last couple,maybe it is age.I just worry it is me and I try to read everything and ask and give them their own room and space and they have 3 litter pans,lots of scratching posts and houses/trees and beds and toys and quiet places.By the way my dogs are spoiled rotten,my friends get on me because I cook and bake for the dogs and will for the cats(anyone know simple recipees for cats treats,maybe b-day cake) but I won't for the kids or people.I tell my 2 older kids they are 20 and 23 it is time they cook for me.I say when the furbabies get hands and can cook for themselves I will stop in the meantime people have hands and I cooked for 15 yrs until I was divorced it's someone elses turn Thanks again everyone.Keep the advice coming for a new cat Mom.It has been at least 10+ yrs since my last cats-just dogs.
Laurie