Kona is a tortie and she only pulls that attitude with our dog, Oreo. However, she is terrified of leaving the house (for the vet, etc.), but I think that is understandable since she's an inside-only cat.

Kona has strong "preferences" about how things should be done, such as the perfect drip speed for the bathtub faucet. And she has decided that I am the lap-cuddler and my husband is the player; she does not allow these roles to be reversed. But she is never mean--she's just an independent thinker.