my dad had gangrene in his toes and between my mom and myself we undertook the job of cleaning and re wrapping his foot....

it was not the most pleasant thing on the planet...

it hurts THAT MUCH MORE when it's a loved one you are looking after...

i have a sister, who is a nurse - she showed up once in the two years to help us out with the bandaging, washing etc....

I thank God for my other two brothers and my mom...between us all we were able to make his last years very comfortable..

do i have any animosity towards my sister??
no, not really......

but what made me think about her was the fact that she called up mom to tell her that her husband was ill and would not go see the doctor...

My sister also said to my mom, "Now I know what you went thru with dad....."

Maybe......but i know it was the fact that she was scared....there are times that people are more scared than apathetic...that is their problem...

they just cannot handle the reality of age, illness and death.

Do the best job you can do and remember that the satisfaction you feel doing a good job will far outweigh the guilt had you not done a thing for a family member.

prayers and best wishes to you!