I've been on both sides of this fence. I've said some things that were hurtful and that I truly regretted some time later. There was one incident in particular that I wish had never happened, but the air has since been cleared between us, and I feel so much better for it. I also have been a victim here, and some totally awful things were said about me and another member, and without a shred of truth to what was said. This was said by a member in "good"?? standing, and one that has been here for a long time. Once the truth was brought to light, I still never got an apology, and it hurts to this day, but I'm not going to let that spoil it for the rest of the great people that I have met here, and ones who have become very good friends.