Kirsten, not everyone has the same level of hearing. Paul and I are a good example.
All his life Paul has had excellent hearing, so has been more sensitive to loud noise than others. The one "rock" concert he went to with me was too painful for him to enjoy, and it was soft rock at best! I, even before I had the surgery that left me half deaf, have never been bothered by loud noise. I grew up in a noisy household, my mother taught piano and we all played different musical instruments, and there were 4 of us kids, too. So I grew up tolerant of it all. Now, of course, I hear on only one side, so loud noises are even softer if they happen to my right.
When I was a child, after we were all in bed for the night, my mother would often sit and play the piano - maybe just to remind herself what the instrument was supposed to sound like! So I can fall asleep to music, even find that pleasant to do.
I am guessing you hearings is much more sensitive than normal people, and your physical illness makes it even less comfortable, sadly. But I do think noise-cancelling headphones might help you.
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