I think everyone has a different idea of death and the afterlife. I refuse to go to the cemetary - their body might be there, but thats not THEM. Its their bodily remains. Their spirit is released and free to go wherever it wants --- if I were a spirit, the cemetary wouldn't be where I hung out. I'd be at home watching over my loved ones. So goes my own little perspective. I have never visite anybody's gravestone after the funeral. Never will.

I however would be compelled to put some type of marker on a grave. Even just a small cement slab with name and dates.