My ex and I divorced in about 82, I insisted it be a friendly divorce because there were kids involved. We had the revolving door policy for the kids, they could spend one night with me, the next with their dad or do weeks or none. We left that ALL up to the kids with the understanding that communication would be going on often as to who was where and when.. It worked out beautifully and we are still friends to this day.

It confuses people when there are weddings, graduations etc and they see us together, always whispering "I thought Marie said they were DIVORCED?". Everybody is always surprised that we are such good friends... Heck, why NOT? He knows me better than any man ever has, we shared a lot of good times, a lot of bad times.. we just outgrew each other and neither one of us saw the other as a "bad" person. You just grow apart and see things differently. That don't make either of you right or wrong.

I have never understood WHY there always had to be a big blow up for someone to break up. Adults should be able to say "this isn't working for me anymore and it is time to move on"...

Good luck to you and your soon to be ex. I hope you and he continue to be friends as long as me and my ex has.