Consenting adults can do as they please. Gay porn is no big deal in my book. He hasn't hurt anyone and if he was married, obviously he kept a good secret for a very long time. I rather feel sorry for him if he lived a life that was really not his own all that time. And his wife, since the marriage was a lie. That's unfortunate.

BUT - child abuse, especially within the family, a trusted father or grandfather. . .no excuse. I give the daughter much credit for moving forward with her life and forgiving, but he does not deserve a memorial, nor does his wife if she allowed it to happen and never acted. Hard time believing that she wouldn't have known. His memory should be erased and those beautiful ladies lives cleansed of his deeds. I only wish it were that easy. I can't believe that someone can behave that way and not know it is wrong. . .can someone explain that to me?

Catty - I'm so sorry that you have found skeletons in closets of people you loved. Life is unkind that way. I guess this is part of your lesson here on earth. You loved the side of these people that you knew and there was no way that you could see through them to into their darkness. That isn't your place anyway. Live in the light as you always have.

Cathy