Well if someone called me a 'dragon lady' I'd be insulted, not complimented.

Dragon lady is by no means a compliment to anyone, and 'another' was typed in all capital letters meaning yelling in text land and emphasized in a negative way.

For backhanded compliments? Does anyone know what that actually means? There is no 'compliment' involved. It is simply an insult period.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Backhanded_compliment
A backhanded compliment or left-handed compliment or asteism is an insult disguised as a compliment. It is generally used to belittle or condescend, or often one uses a backhanded compliment when one wants to insult someone in a subtle way.

http://www.answers.com/topic/left-handed-compliment
backhanded compliment. An insult in the guise of an expression of praise. For example, She said she liked my hair, but it turned out to be a left-handed compliment when she asked how long I'd been dyeing it. This expression uses left-handed in the sense of "questionable or doubtful," a usage dating from about 1600.

Sorry but I do not agree with 'backhanded compliment' being nice in any way, but that's just my opinion, I'm sure others may dissagree.