We never host it, we always go to Mark's moms. All the kids, grand kids &great-grand kids, pile together in one small house Ours is even smaller, so it would never work (thank goodness)
I do usually make quite a few things and bring them, and so do his sisters. So it's not too bad for us.
Don't get stressed, it's just food, and who cares if the house isn't spotless! People should be more into having a good time than looking to see if you house is clean! GOOD LUCK!