Catty 1 - I don't attend the AA meetings, I just know the people who run them as we meet at the same workplaces often....this is what they tell people who keep trying to help alcoholics..." It is their problem and don't make it yours or you are enabling them".

As for the medical books I've got my nose buried in them most of the day so I know what they say about alcohol and drug abuse, then there are the books on the other side of that fence....