Here's a new one someone just composed, disliking the first one that was posted on another forum. It's kind of cool. (But not official yet!)

To my family

There is no point in me telling you that I'm an alcoholic. It's an insult to your intelligence. Of course I am. I need to get off my sorry ass and do something about it.

I have no credibility with you, and expect none, at least until there's some long term action behind my words.

Feel free to do what is right for you regarding my behavior, You have a life. You deserve to live it without my interference or drama.

If you choses to put up with me, hold me to my promises and commitments. If I want to get well, I am perfectly capable of doing what I said I would.

If I exploit you or take advantage of you, we really can't blame it on my disease. Drunk or sober, I am responsible for my actions. You don't have to put up with it if you don't want to.

There is no point talking to me when I am drunk. Yell at me when I am sober.

Expect me to fulfill my responsibilities, like any grownup would. If I don't, natural consequences are a great motivator. Fixing it is usually a bad idea, even if I beg you to.

If you want to pour out my alcohol, do it. It may or may not have any effect on my behavior, but it may help you to feel better.

I'm just a common drunk who may or may not get better. I've damaged our relationship and wounded you and others. Even if I refuse to get help, you deserve to find whatever works for you to have peace and stability in your life.

Signed,

Me.