Richard I am so sorry you are going through this. As if it isn't hard enough to see your mom failing in front of your eyes, you have to deal with these family members. I have pretty much carried the ball with my mother's situation. I only have one brother and he was busy tending to his wife who had cancer for several years before she passed and was happy for me to take over. I know that the problems you are going through are pretty common though. We can choose our friends but we can't choose our families.