Oh Mary, There are no words to tell you how sorry I am. The pain is so very deep I know. I am so sorry for your brother. My family has had 4 deaths due to car accidents. One was my mom. The pain is like a torch against your skin.
My sister's husband killed a man driving drunk, he ran over an East Ohio Gas man. This poor man was working on the side of the road when Jim plowed him down and dragged him God's knows how far. He died 11 days later in the hospital. It was a nightmare for everyone.
Drinking and driving is not ok. And NO not everyone does it. We have to make the laws bit back. We have the power to stop this one person at a time by taking a stand and not drinking and stopping those that do even if it means grabbing the keys and flushing them away. Don't think that taking the keys away from a drunk makes you look bad, or foolish or a bad friend. You are often saving a life and if the drunk gets mad, call the police, it's better then going through the pain of a death and knowing you had the power to stop it.
My hearts and prayers go out to all.