Yes, I have to agree w/Candace. It got awfully dark and scary for my friend and her note said, in part, "I have nothing. I am nothing. I will always be nothing." None of us had any idea that she felt this way until afterwards, obviously, and we put all the pieces together. She presented a totally different picture. I went through a period of anger for nearly a year concerning this because I felt that, if she had opened up to us and allowed herself to be helped, her suicide would never have happened. But that's a big "if" and it was out of our hands. As time passes, you'll undoubtedly learn more about the "why" of it but right now take comfort in knowing that his torment is over while his wife's is just beginning, so be there for each other.