Thanks for all your input.

He is neutered. I told her about this site and for a recent update (even for me) she said Decker has recently started making SMALL advances toward her husband (he will walk past him, role around on the ground in front of him, sit and stare at him), but she is still the bad guy.
Reason probably being (which I knew), she is the one who traps him and ends up taking him to the vet. Aug/September he required a series of blood tests, and long story short, they thought he had hepatitis. He doesn't. It was more than just the move and rebelling...the move was in March. After two vets (vet from chicago and new vet closer to home) they still don't know what was wrong with him. He is ok again...not vomiting or losing weight, but she is making him special meals which seem to be working (I don't think normal over the counter cat food).

I agree time is the only answer...if he does ever come around...she just has allot of love and he does have the perfect home with her.