Ashley, I am so sorry that you lost a friend that way - how horrible for you and her family especially to not know what happened. There is nothing worse than to not know what the circumstances were when your child died. What he was thinking, feeling, doing. And of course to lose a child is terrible. You lose your present and future. And it would be awesome if you at some point could contact her parents by mail or whatever and tell them of a memory or two. When Rob died those are some of the cards I was most grateful for. However I will also say that they will be so numb for awhile especially under the circumstances that she died under that it might be nicer to wait awhile. Recently I looked through some of the cards we received and don't remember seeing them before. It is just too overwhelming at the moment to really grasp what is happening.