*And then she said she didn't ever think there would ever be anyone that she woulld totally approve of for me*

By this statement I think your mom was in effect letting you know that her opinions may be tainted by a mother's wanting the best of the best for her daughter and that you have to take that into consideration when you evaluate her input.

Personally I believe you are certainly of an age where you can make your own decisions about who to get to know a bit better. That doesn't mean you should ignore the opinions of others, especially your parents. Simply put them into the mix with your own observations and gut reactions. As an adult you will be making many choices in life and it is unavoidable for there to be mistakes along the way. But as you begin that process you will learn to trust your own judgement and from that comes confidence.

Hopefully your mother will encourage you to spred your wings and fly into the world of work and relationships outside the scope of the immediate family. Her wanting to have you wait to get a job until after the move sounds reasonable, but if there are other efforts to delay the process of your moving on with your life, you may need to have a really serious conversation with her about what you expect from your future and how she can be more helpful to your emotional and social growth. Good luck.