Sallyanne,

I am glad that you have reached some decisions about what you are going to do. Life is too short to be miserable, whether it is a job or a relationship. I have been there and done that and it was horrible. The best thing I did was leave.

I know that you are making the right decision for your mother.

P.S. Vermont state has some very good programs for people in the position of Sallyanne's mother, so there should be help available to her that isn't found in other states.