So is he currently living alone???

Uh huh, you are right, you do have problem.

Go to the senior center for his city; most have great administrative staff and even an full time nurse. They can help you with loads of stuff. I go to our senior center more than my Dad does!

My Dad is 80 and moved in with me 6 years ago. He is slowing down and getting more confused, just in the past 6 months. In Dad's case, much of it is due to his diabetes; he does not contro it. The huge blood glucose swings cause the confusion and forgetfulness.

It is quite difficult to get men to a doctor's. And our parents' generation doesn't have the same attitude to seeing the doc as we have.

You need to do a couple of things, but mostly you need to get yourself informed. That can start with the senior center, and with the council on aging someone else mentioned.

Your Dad "knows" he is getting confused, and he finds it scary. He is trying to hide it And make excuses, and THIS IS NORMAL FOR SOMEONE IN HIS SITUATION. It means a loss of control, and a reminder of his mortality. It means he is going to be more dependent on someone.

Treat him with patience; NOT easy when he forgets what you said in 30 seconds or less.

You need to address: the person; the future for the person; the assets and their safety.

Work on getting him to a doctor for a physical and blood work.

Often the area nursing homes and the senior center will have free workshops on moving to assisted living, senior housing, selecting a retirement home, finding an attorney. GO! Do what you need to do and go for the information, even if you can't get Dad to go with you.

Also see about an attorney. You need to get all his paperwork in order, if it isn't already; it seldom is in these situations. At a minimum, he needs a Will, Living Will, and Durable Power of Attorney.

Someone needs to get a handle on his assets. As confused as he sounds, he could easily lose a LOT if someone isn't keeping up with things. I stopped Dad losing quite a bit by phoning someone right back and challenging them. If you find out a year or two later, well, that is much more difficult to recover anything. Also, before he moved in with me, Dad was finding paperwork just too much to cope with. He wasn't paying taxes or insurance on the house; and it wasn't an issue of not having the money. I had to catch things up, get liens removed, etc.

All this assumes you are going to be the one handling things. Between my brother and me, there was no contest, bro isn't capable or interested in this stuff. So I got it.

If you are the one, it may mean using vacation time to get to workshops, even for a half day here and there. DO IT. Whomever is going to handle this needs to start learning and gathering information NOW.