Quote Originally Posted by crow_noir
I know it's not the same situation but i kind of know how it feels. It's like when my parents got their divorce and end up putting me in the middle of it. ...and my dad was selling off all the stuff the court ordered him to give back to my mom. Some stuff were treasured trinkets that meant the world to me that i had hoped to inherit some day. ...That wasn't the worst part though. Not even close. Two people i have loved, trusted, and cherished my whole life had changed into horrible psychos with in a couple years time. My life was torn apart. When my mom snapped i lost one of my best friends, my trust in her had forever been swept away.

And yes, to keep things civil, and to try and get some of the object that held fond memories of a better time I did my best to keep my temper with them. I took their phone calls. Sometimes i had to lie about things i knew. I hated it. And they'd try to get all this info from me (mostly it was my father..) and at the end of the phone calls they'd try to let me know how much they love and cherish me. (Really? Well then why are you acting like you are and being manipulative? was what i was thinking.) In the very least i found their behavior disrespectful. ...that's as light as i can put it.

But yes... I understand (i think). Pretending to be something you're not because you have next to no choice if you want things to go even slightly in your favor... sucks horribly!!!

I'm sorry you had to go through that
My parents divorce turned into WW3 but of a different kind... My dad was civil 100% as he refused to bring any extra stress onto his kids... However my mother wanted to destroy my dad for whatever reason... I was 13 & my sister was 9.. my sister & I went through hell & back.. my mom & counclers tried to force us to say our dad was touching us