Quote Originally Posted by joycenalex
he knows how to get jobs, he needs to learn how to keep them. he's 21, not a legally dependant child, and some adversity early in life will strengthen his spine. good luck with your hubby, you can show him this, it might help to see that his softness is no kindness in the longer run of your sons life

Don't I know it...
I wasn't nearly as bad as your son, but I had a lot of things handed to me, esp. when I was with my ex. He paid all my bills & took care of everything.

Then one day I was dumped in a strange city alone. No folks to run to, not a single friend to lend me a hand. It was a horrible exp. to go through. I went through all kinds of emotions, ups & downs, rich, then poorer then dirt. I survived it all cause my dad taught me to always work hard, even when you don't need the money. So when I was dumped I had a full time job that was secure.

I had the chance to be a stay at home wife, as my ex made so much money, but I kept working. I don't even want to think where I'd be without the job I have today.

My dad taught me well, never be lazy, be smart, & work hard. I'm only 24, just a few yrs older then your son.

What would your son do if he was suddenly alone in the world? he wouldn't have much of a fun start thats for sure. Your hubby needs to prepare him for the real world, which isn't always friendly