Freedom, and all... my son is 39 and after my husband died a few yrs ago he and his wife and two sons moved in with me.. thank God. What a blessing it has been. But now he just takes over watching over all of us and in this circumstance putting his safety last. DIL and I are still trying to convince him the ugly treatment is the ONLY way to go. He was most exposed, DIL & I less so but will do it if that will help him be convinced to follow through Try talking to a hard-headed SOB about doing "what's best" Like most SOB's it's hard to convice him he's not infallible We are working on it.