Oscar was doing that due to a UTI, but also due to stress as he was a tamed wild kitty who was living indoors, and then had a new brother to live with a year later.

All good things - but good "stress".

He went on Feliway about a year ago - I make it last longer than it does (which is a long time) by putting nylon or cloth collar on him, and putting a tiny squirt on it morning and evening (vet said 2 - 3 times a day).

Now I can rub his furry tummy again, and in Nov the vet said he had some a long way! Little Mama's boy!

Feliway is made from a cat's face hormone - so I preferred that to the tranquilizer alternative. My vet let me try Feliway first - and it is fine. So no pills.

Craftlady also used some herbal stuff on Thumper to stop her pulling hair. You might want to PM her.

Good luck!