Maybe you should consider going to a trainer. I have had lots of problems learning to communicate with my golden, Jake. As a result of this, he pulls, jumps, lunges, ignores me, etc. Our trainer has showed me very clear ways of teaching Jake the behavior that is expected of him. I always knew Jake was a good dog, but he couldn't read my mind.

The class is once a week, plus "homework". In just a few short weeks, Jake has become the model dog for the class (I'm a proud momma). We have a great instructor at our local Petsmart and it is only $10 a week. The class has about 4 dogs on average. I would definately advise looking into dog trainers in your area. You and your dog will be happier and less stressed out, once you learn what is expected of each other. Good luck and remember that every dog can learn the basics of obedience (sit, stay, heal, etc.).