That makes sense, that he acts like it hurts to be touched. It doesn't "hurt," but he is not desensitized to the feeling and so it is not something he has adapted to = YET! He can and will get used to it, better now as a kit. Think about it (if you aren't too tired dealing with all the herd and Moxie!) In the "wild," there are few things that touch a cat: mom's tongue, and things when he brushes by them, but that is about it.

Eye contact in the animal kigdom is a challenge, a sign of aggression. He needs to get used to the new culture, the hiuman culture, of eye contact. Also, when you smile at him, don't show teeth, another sign of aggression in the animal world. He will get used to seeing human teeth over time.

Great work you are doing, best wishes and you WILL see progress!