I didn't "settle for" anything. I accepted the differences in him from myself. I didn't WANT my birthday to be like mowing the yard or cleaning the house. I wouldn't have enjoyed that at all. And if I forgot things he was just as accepting. In fact the vast majority of the time when I was cooking or cleaning he'd run up and either ask to help, insist on taking over, or tell me I didn't need to do all of that.

I was no perfect wife just as he wasn't a perfect husband. I made mistakes, he made mistakes, we both forgave easily and moved on. Even though it is over, I will always treasure the special relationship we had in the years we were together, and I am personally very glad that I never got caught up in being angry and resentful because he forgot to get me a card on my birthday, or was a day late in getting me a gift. I'm sorry but to me those ARE small things in the big scheme and not how I judge whether my mate is a good one (I am not saying that Lobodeb is). There are probably other issues and I can't judge or form an opinion on those things, only what was written about here.