Quote Originally Posted by Dorothy39
Your present, agonizing relationship with your Mother must feel so heartbreaking.

While I'm not , in any way, a professional counsiler, I couldn't help but read into your despair ie: "I know that their are many people with ACTUAL problems.


You are SAD and FRUSTRATED!!!! You need a to feel A continuous, strong bond with your Mother. Your problem can never be compared to any one elses, It can't be minimized. iT IS YOURS, AND IT HURTS.


I'm very sorry that you missed out on that eagerly awaited dinner with your Mother and you Aunt. You have every right to feel "left out' , forgotten , ignored, overlooked etc.


To get to the point of my humble reply,

My advice would have to be, "seek counseling ", if only for yourself.

This is not just an old friend, this is your MOTHER!!!! And, you will always love her!!!

I hope and Pray that the two of you can come to terms with the remarkable bond that is still in place.

I don't see how a counseller can help me if my mom doesn't come to. She says it's my problem, but she is the source of it. I think it's something we both need. I have seen people before, and I don't find they helped me that much. I find it very hard to express how I'm feeling, in person, with someone I don't know.