Mollie, I think you first need to take a deep breath. You're tired, you've been sick, and that always makes things worse. I'm sure some of the others here are going to have much better advice for how to work with them, but I have always heard that the focus needs to be on the first dog, in your case, Buddy. Feed him first, give him toys first. Give him separate attention when you can. But I really think I would let them just work this out between themselves. For the last month, I have had two extra dogs in my house. Lilly got her "panties in a wad" for the first week or two that Splash was here. She snarled, she growled, she barked, which is very unlike sweet Lilly. But you know what, she got over it.....I just left them alone to work it out. I don't think Buddy will starve, but maybe you give him a little extra TLC and goodies on his food to make him feel special, and perhaps you can separate them when you feed them for a while. Scramble him an egg or something special to go with his food occasionally and even try the old "sit on the floor and feed him by hand" trick if you must.

I certainly wouldn't give up yet. It just takes time. I think my household is living proof that it can work out. Maybe Mugsy (Molly) will weigh in here, plus some of the others that have introduced new, adult dogs into their households. There are certainly a lot of you out there.

I can't wait to see Abby's pictures, plus seeing Buddy again would be quite nice too!

You hang in there. It will all be ok. We love them so much that we expect things to work out quickly.....they don't always think exactly like we do!

Logan