So, here are the conditions under which I can rejoin my family. I would appreciate any comments.

1. I need to apologize to the kids. And they need to know that I love them, they're not so sure about this.

2. Hubby will find a family counsellor after holidays and the entire family will go.

3. After vacation he will continue to live at our lake house until we believe that our marriage is no longer in jeopardy and the kids feel happy and secure.

4. If I feel stressed out I must leave.

5. We must all enjoy the remainder of the vacation and be happy as individuals so we can be happy as a family.