Quote Originally Posted by gina's ark inc.
but anyway, while nothing is personal to me anymore, I don't know if I should apologize for my "dramatic" threads - those are way different than from threads whose did not asked for help and then being bombarded with advices, especially advices they weren't hoperfully looking for. not most people think that before they read numerous of advices/ideas in a thread and that drives me ticky also.

a little off topic probably, but thought some of you had to realize that too for others.
Well, this is probably the other side of the same coin. Yet, I'm curious as to why someone would even post, if they didn't want advice, input, or comments. If I make a suggestion, it is not because I feel I know the answer, but simply care enough to take the time to share what has been the benefit of my experience in what seems like a similar situation. If ten different suggestions are given and one is helpful, then the whole of the respondents' efforts are worthwhile.

Sometimes even if advice doesn't seem to be acted on, it can give the recipient the benefit of another perspective, which may never have been considered. That can be stored away and given other experiences may be part of what is utilized in thinking something out on another occasion.

I try to give thought to my posts and how I state them, and my last intention is to ever hurt anyone's feelings but I simply do not have time to waste. There was a column in today's paper that had a statement which I feel is quite applicable: *People who are telling themselves what they want to hear are uniquely unreceptive to hearing anything else.*

If people posting here do not want input or advice, maybe they should clearly state that in their thread.