Quote Originally Posted by K & L
Sad part is every evening when I go to bed she runs in there and sleeps above my head. She makes it difficult to just toss her aside.
That's the killer, isn't it? She's tame, she's been rejected, she needs you. I have been in your type of situation a few times with a cat that gave the others a very hard time, sprayed, was intensely possessive, and that obviously needed contact with me. I tried to make one an outdoor cat but he ended up getting beaten up. I tried isolation, but that's a grim scenario. I ended up with a kind of semi-isolation, pretty much as you seem to be doing now, and the other cats had to cope. Two lived in a narrow hall cupboard for years to escape the predatory one. Both problem cats needed to be only cats with adoring owners, but, like you, I knew there was no home that would keep them and I didn't trust anyone to return them to me for sure if there were problems. I was afraid they'd just "get rid of them" rather than bring them back. I philosophized that we all have to cope with bad situations at times, working with people we loathe, living with relatives that drive us mad, dealing with children that seem alien for a time. It didn't really help, I don't think anything did. We all simply lived with the bad situations for years.

I think all we can do to help is commiserate with you.