Amber, I don't really have any advice for you but I just wanted to let you know that my heart goes out to you. I hope you guys can figure things out. I'm glad you are going to try a crate. My girls were both crate trained and I think it was the best thing that we ever did and it really saved us from alot of destructive behavior. I was lucky though and they both took to their crates really well. I hope it works out that way for you. I know it is hard but hopefully you can figure out some way for Grant to get more exercise too. He sounds like the kind of dog that needs to feel useful and have a job.

Best of luck and {{BIG HUGS}} for you!