Thank you for the support everyone.

I have been seeing a counsellor and am trying to get in with her ASAP. He will not go to counselling as he doesn't see that he has a problem. We have talked some and have determined to try to be nice to each other for the remainder of this year to not ruin Christmas for his kids - my suggestion. We will see what January brings. I still love him very much and I'm praying for a Christmas miracle that will keep our family together. But yes, as you've all said, to ask me to compromise my pets is simply not an option, I don't ask him to compromise his kids. We shall see where this goes, for now just trying to keep the emotions in check.

Thank you again all of my friends for making me feel better. You guys are the very best!!