It amazes me how people's actions and dispositions change dramatically when someone they love dies. They see $$$$$$$$. My father and I discussed every aspect of him dying in great detail, who gets what, etc. He was VERY adamant that I take anything and everything in his apartment. No, he didn't have a will, and I was his sole caregiver for 2 1/2 years with absolutely NO help from my brother or my useless stepsisters.

When my Dad died (he was found dead in his apartment), I immediately called a moving company and took most of it. I held off putting his obituary in the newspaper because I KNEW the minute my youngest stepsister found out he was gone, she'd be all over me like flies on poo for her Mom's wedding ring and engagement ring (that my Dad gave her). Sure enough, that's what happened. I stuck to my word with her and told her she could have them when he was gone. I had no use for them.

She came by one day with a new "boy toy" figuring she'd get the rings and leave, and while I was cleaning out his storage bin, she kept asking me about the rings. I told her she'd get them when she helped me clean out the apartment. 10 hours later, I handed them over to her. It's been 8 years and I haven't seen nor heard from her since. Just the way I like it.

I have a will, thank you very much. And I strongly suggest anyone they have one drawn up as well. Or better yet, give the stuff away while you're still alive so you KNOW it'll be going to the right person.