If you asked me that last year, I'd have said male. Ask me that this year, I'd say its a draw. Its more the personality of the cat, and their temperment.

Female Torties and calicos tend to have more attitude than others, so we often think ALL females are aloof and tempermental. Its a fallacy just like the ones where people think "all males spray". Its a generalization, and you need to know the cat to know how he/she would react to children.