It sounds like you are working well with PArker and she is responding to you. If you put her in a home where the lady will obviously not take the time for PArker she may resort back the way she was. Also she will need time with the new cat and obviously the woman will not give that either.

As far as declawing - my Meka was violent after we got her from Animal COntrol - blood just dripping down my hubby's arm when she out of the blue grabbed on with claws and teeth. We are lucky she is a small cat. Anyway we still didn't declaw her. We are working with her and she is showing a lot of promise but it is slow go since October. I still have not declawed her nor intend too. As a last last last resort we have thought about it but time is showing a lot of improvement so I dont' think it will be necessary. I called the vet about it and she said it is very painful for an older cat (over 1 year old) and you have to keep them from jumping for two weeks - yah right with mine - she is all over the place. So this lady wanting to declaw right away a cat that is over a year is not a good sign at all. Parker's forever home is out there but if you give her to this lady she will not find her forever home..... I vote NO No No!!!! Debbie