I never owned a border collie before. I knew they were extremely smart but not about the sensitivity level. I've been considering obediance training for her but can't escape the house without having to take the other 3!
Her behavior has just changed completely since adopting her. Her adjustment phase should be over.
I don't feel we are bonding at all right now. Could it be a struggle with finding her place in the "Pack"? I am Alpha Human, Scooby is Alpha dog and Miss Thang the cat is Alpha Home! She plays with Scooby very well which she is twice the size of.
I've tried a variety of different bonding exercises. Finally, got her to lay on the bed with me. She will sometimes sleep with me. She still won't let me hug her.
I am hoping nothing has happened with the neighbor. I do keep an eye on them. I usually make sure their dogs aren't outside and the neighbor isn't home when I let them out. Even the dogs barking or not barking she gets scared to go out the door. I just grab her collar and lead her to the door. It is still up to her to leave or not. I just lead her there to see what is happening and to assure her.