How do you get a guy to notice you?

[bluekat]

I noticed that you made other similar threads like this too All about guys.

Well, I don't know. I don't really give out good advice when it comes to guys. But I'd hate it if some guy would keep on looking at my butt.
I'm like wolfsoul, I can never be outgoing with someone new. I'm only outgoing with someone I knew for a long time.

[sweet_stormy]

just to clear things for you guys, if you havent already figured out, i am obsessed with guys. yea, its true. i like a guy in 9th grade (one year higher than me) and i want to get him to notice me.

[Kfamr]

Oh geez.

Think of school, not what "guy" is looking at your "butt" and what one isn't.



You're not even 14 years old. You're not 18, 20, 30, 40. Don't worry about "guys", or little boys actually. Worry about yourself, protecting yourself, and your animals.

This is a PET site, not a "how to pick up 'guys'" site,
or
"Should I let this completely insane 'guy', have illegal sex with me, because I want to be nice and all..." site.

Please, just take care of yourself and don't worry about the little boys. That should come later in life.

I'm not sure where your parents are, or your "Adult figure" in your life is -- but I sure hope they're looking after you.

[Soledad]

I was going to bring up a similar point. Sweet_Stormy, how is your life at home going? I understand a lot of 13 year old girls are interested in boys, and that's fine and probably healthy. But don't let it drive you to do things to please them. Talk to your parents/guardians about dating and what they think of the topic...

[wolfsoul]

I disagree that she shouldn't be thinking about boys. I'll bet that 99% of girls think about boys at that age. I know I did.

However, I didn't let it affect my schoolwork or other important things in my life, so just remember to keep to your commitments. Guys like a girl who is set in her life.

[Kfamr]

Yes, I thought aobut "boys" at that age, and I still do.

But this is the child that had thoughts of meeting a MAN who wanted to "do it" with her.

She needs parental guidence of some sort, she really does.
It sickens me and saddens me.

[wolfsoul]

Yes, I remember that. And I remember telling her that I believe she is only trying to call attention to herself. I'll give advice where I can, but I still think that this is all just to take us in. After all, why does every noticable thread seem to be about boys?

[Kfamr]

It could just be an "Attention seeker" or something to get people started.. i hope it is, because if it isn't this little girl really needs help.

Well, either way they need help, but the stories she gives us are more dangerous then telling some sort of attention seeking fib on the internet.

[micki76]

While I wouldn’t worry too much about getting a boy to notice you just yet, Richard has offered up some great advice.

[Tonya]

my friends say that he looks at my butt.

You want him to notice your personality before your butt for one. Also, don't go out of your way to much to be noticed. You don't want to look (or be) desperate or annoying. Find out what he likes. Learn about it so that you can talk to him. Find out where he goes and casually show up. Most importantly; don't ever change for someone. Be yourself. If they don't like you for who you are, they aren't the one.

[Tonya]

Hey, Richard. That is pretty darn good!

[2kitties]

Okay. Let's all stop giving her a hard time. Assuming Stormy is talking about a boy at her school- which she says is true- and not an adult, then it is perfectly natural. Many girls her age are interested in boys. It's biological. Some girls get interested earlier, some later. God knows when I was 14, all I could think about was the boys at school and who was going to be at the dance on Friday.
This is a critical age in learning to deal with the opposite sex, in getting confidence and understanding how to define and set limits, in learning what you like and don't like in potential dates. I think it is a perfectly natural question that many if not most of us have asked during our adolescence.
Stormy, the first thing you need to know is that the boys don't know any more about girls than you know about boys. They're just as intimidated and nervous. Yes, he's probably looking at your butt, but probably because he doesn't know what else to do and how to talk to you. He hasn't learned yet what to say to a girl and how to make her like him for who he is inside. Girls mature faster, that's a fact. You can, if you play your cards right, have the upper hand in the situation. Initiate conversation and exude confidence. Confidence is the most attractive quality no matter what your age- 14 or 41.

Alot of girls think they can get boys by tossing around sex appeal. Well, here's the deal about that. We've all got sex appeal, it's built-in. So, there is nothing unique about tossing about sex. Find what makes you unique and toss it about.

[sweet_stormy]

2kitties, you basically know what im tryin to say. this guy that i want to notice me has been my friend for about 2 weeks. He's really nice and stuff, its just that when hes around his friends he doesnt seem to say hi to me or anything (i dont really mind b/c we talk on the internet a lot). One of his friends is a big jerk to me, the others dont make fun of me. i know you people are thinking, "why on earth would she be talking about her problems on Pet Talk? Pet Talk is called what we should be doing...... Talking about pets, not boys." I just thought that since I'm in the Dog House that it was OKAY to talk about other stuff. I may be wrong but I thought that the Dog House said something like talking about war, peace, and other stuff. I just assumed that my "problem" would go under that catagory. I'm sorry. I won't talk about my problems ever again. I just thought since I cant talk to my mom about this stuff, or even to my friends b/c they dont care about my problems, that I could talk to you guys and get advice. You guys all seem so nice that I quickly thought that you might have some good advice for me, I must have been wrong. All you guys do is say that Pet Talk is for talking about pets, not people problems. I just thought that it would be easier to talk to people on here than it is on http://www.the-n.com b/c the people on The N (noggin) only respond to things about sex and stuff. its quicker on here to submit a thread/post. it takes more than 3 days to submit one on the-n.com

~Sweet_stormy~

[tikeyas_mom]

kayann at that age I bet you thoguht of guys and not just school work . I know I did ..

well just talke to the guy and get to know him, maybe you'll hit it off. or maybe you'll never speek and he'll end up some looser and you'll be some successful person that he turned down..

[micki76]

To the people who’ve responded so negatively in this thread. May I ask why you choose to make one of our fellow Pet Talkers feel dirty about her natural feelings for boys? I think it’s extremely normal to be interested. If you think it’s dirty, then you yourself may want to delve into that a little more deeply. Interest in the opposite sex after someone enters puberty is quite normal; it’s nature. IMHO to be disgusted by it or to think it’s wrong or not normal is something you should really examine within yourself.

That having been said, I still think you shouldn’t worry so much about being noticed and concentrate on becoming a successful, confident young woman that young men will flock to when the time is right.