is it just kidding around? or not?

[popcornbird]

Originally posted by primabella
LMAO

Well nobody has actually made comments like that to me (hmmm should I feel good or bad right now ) but if they did I would definitly tell them to stop. One of my guy friends poked me in the stomach as a joke once and it got me upset. It's like...don't touch me!

I think this guy is just being flirty but it is actually harassment. I don't even think he knows. There are guys in my class who will just push themselves up against a girl and act as if it was an accident. It's so pathetic and I would be so upset if I were them.

So yeah I would tell him to stop first and if he doesn't listen, turn to the coach.

No one has said that to me either..........but I believe that's because I'm a Muslim girl and wear long loose clothes and cover my hair when I go out, so they have nothing to see. Tee hee hee. I didn't realize this happens to other girls, but now I realize the benefits of covering myself when I go out. Hehehe. I feel so safe like that. No one can harrass me, and if they dare to, they would get a nice smack in the face. I don't take that stuff, and though I try to be a nice person to everyone, I'm not nice if someone offends me like that. Of course its never happened before, and I pray it never will.

[G.P.girl]

Originally posted by Kfamr


I can't even believe you take that from a boy!

You are a young girl (as I am myself) and if any guy had the [nerve] to speak to me like that i'd smack them upside the head SO HARD that he'd be choking on his *thing that's 'bigger' than Taylor's*.

i don't take it from him. i have smacked him several times. and today i told him that it is sexaul harassment but he just laughed at me. i'm sure he know what he is doing is wrong, but i think he thinks i won't get him for. hehehe*laughes dark deep evil laugh*
the thing is the coach wont be at school tomarrow so i cant talk to him til monday. oh well. thanks for the advice guys you really helped.

[lizbud]

I don't understand why you can't tell another teacher about
this. Why tell only the coach? Are you on this football team, like
a co-ed team or something? Tell the kid what you think of his
behaviour. If it does not stop, tell all the adults you know that
this bothers you.

[G.P.girl]

well it is a co-ed team, but i am the first and only girl ever to play. i could tellthe other teaches but i wouldnt reall feel comortale teling them. the coach is my favorite teacher and he can tell the kid to stop without making a huge deal about it so everybody knows.

[G.P.girl]

also i dont want him to tell the principal of r anything i just want him to mention it to him or something. do you thinkj he will do that or will he make a big deal out of it? if he's going to tell everybody and get him in trouble then i dont want to tell him.

[Kater]

Your coach will probably tell the people he thinks are important to tell. I don't know the man so I can't really tell you what I think he will do. Teachers are often trained as to what to do in these situations and you are going to have to trust that he knows more about this than you.

Anyway, if you wanted to you could always ask him to please talk to this individual before telling anyone else about this issue.

[stacwase]

Well it sounds like you're going to do the right thing. If you told him you didn't appreciate it and asked him to stop and he didn't, then it is blatant harassment and the coach could probably do something about it.

There was a boy on the football team in my school who used to walk down the hallways swinging his arms and "accidentally" touching girls' crotches. I went to the coach about it and he was benched for a game and never did it again.

[gini]

I read this thread last night, but I was too tired to respond.

G.P. girl, let's put the gross guy aside for a moment. What comes to my mind is that it is important early in life to set boundaries. YOUR boundaries are being exceeded and this isn't acceptable.

When you set up personal boundaries, it doesn't make you unpopular, people still like you. What you will receive is respect.

Some guys just think it is so funny to harass the girls. He ought to be decked - grounded and taught some lessons and SOON.

He may not have a clue that what he is doing is completely unacceptable to you.

Your telling him is a start - he doesn't get it? - then you need to take the next step and tell your coach or another teacher. Have you told your parents?

Keep posting about your progress....we are all behind you on this one!!

[2kitties]

Everything Gini said!

[Karen]

The coach probably will not make a big public deal about it, as he is someone you trust, and he will appreciate the gravity of the situation.

There's a diffenerence between being kind and considerate, and being a doormat. Be strong, you are in the right here! And, of course, all of Pet Talk is supporting you in this awkward situation.

P.S. All the women he will encounter in the future will thank you for getting this lesson through to him now!

[RICHARD]

wear your clunkiest shoes.


when he touches you, walk over to him and while you are face to face, give him a good kick in the shin and say, in a loud voice, "DON'T ever touch me again..."

When he tries to explain WHY he was kicked in the shin he'll have to tell WHAT started it.

no one will mess with you again.

[2kitties]

Richard, you sound like a man who's been kicked in the shin!

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by 2kitties
Richard, you sound like a man who's been kicked in the shin!

NOPE!

I'm the guy laughing at him......

the girl then takes my arm and we walk off,
into the sunset

I have seen it done, without the violence-
You just humilate him in front of a group....

[2kitties]

So if I wanna walk into the sunset with you all I have to do is hurt some other guy? that's doable!

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by 2kitties
So if I wanna walk into the sunset with you all I have to do is hurt some other guy? that's doable!

LOL, i usually do not advocate violence but.....

You are just defending your space.

Bullies and people who take advantage WILL NOT
back off until something happens that makes them back down..

People will not let him forget he got kicked in the shin for inappropriately touching a lady...