*** Please Help! My Friend Cuts Herself***

[Steffi N]

Jessica, thank you for helping your friend.

Here is a link to 4 Girls Health, a website for girls sponsored by The National Women's Health Information Center at the US Department of Health and Human Services.

4 Girls Health

To their page on self-injury

I hope these will be helpful.

[primabella]

oh congrats to you! you should be proud for what you did. i hope everything works out well.

[Logan]

Jessica,
I can only hope that my daughter will choose friends as good as you throughout her life. I would certainly want to know if my daughter was hurting herself this way, or doing something harmful to her body. It was a cry for help, and you answered.
Logan

[KYS]

You were very brave and did such a wonderful act,
and it was the right thing to do.
I wish everyone would be lucky enough to have
a good friend like you. Glad she is going to a counsler and is
getting help.

[zippy-kat]

Originally posted by NoahsMommy
Do some research ... and show her what you found.

I'm going to have to disagree here. Be *VERY* careful which materials you show your friend; certain things can trigger a 'cutting' episode.

[babolaypo65]

first, you did the right thing. and remember often people tell someone *because* they want help and dont know how to get it.
second, yes, i agree that you should be careful what you show her. as with sites designed to help girls with anorexia they sometimes backfire and become a "how to do it better" lesson. how to do it and not let it show, not get caught... but for her to know that MANY other girls do the same thing is probably a good thing... so she wont feel so alone.
again, you did the RIGHT thing and she knows it.

Originally posted by zippy-kat


I'm going to have to disagree here. Be *VERY* careful which materials you show your friend; certain things can trigger a 'cutting' episode.

[Ann]

Kudos to you. I've known a lot of cutters in the past, and in most cases it helps them to get attention and help, which seems to apply for your friend.

Good luck to you both, keep us posted

[Jessica12345]

thank you so much you guys. im so lucky to have you! ok well i have to go to school right now but ill tell you how it goes when i get back. thanks again.

I just saw this thread !

Oh jessica , I am proud of you !! You are the best friend someone can have !! Your friend is so lucky to have you !!
Cutting is a very serious psychological problem , so it is really necessary to seek professional help for that!! There was a girl like that in my class in high school . She did it sveral times , and one time they had to rush her to the emergency room real fast ! She survived and took counceling . She is a normal woman now .

Jessica , you're one in a million !! (know that song from The movie "Ms Congeneality" ?)

[gini]

Jessica, I want to jump in here and give you a big hug! It took a great deal of courage for you to tell her parents. You knew that you would be putting your friendship with your friend in jeopardy!

But just look what your actions put into motion. She is getting counseling! Exactly what she needs, because she is crying out for help!

You should be so proud of yourself for being the best friend a girl could have. It was a very selfless act. You thought only of your friend.

I can tell by all of the posts that every Mother here wishes that their children could be just like you! Very courageous!

God bless you!

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by zippy-kat
I'm going to have to disagree here. Be *VERY* careful which materials you show your friend; certain things can trigger a 'cutting' episode.

Doh, I'm sorry. I should have clarified this...show her "why" not the "how" information. You are correct, I guess I just assumed Jess lived in my brain. Sorry about that.

[lynnestankard]

Jessica {{{{{Hugs}}}} flying across the miles - what you did was a really caring and loving thing.
Someone had to be told and her parents needed to know what their daughter was doing. As Logan said - I'd have wanted to know if either of my daughters was in so much trauma they were harming themselves.
I think when she's thought this through she'll realise what a really good friend she has in you.

Lynne

[Jessica12345]

Originally posted by lut

Jessica , you're one in a million !! (know that song from The movie "Ms Congeneality" ?)

yes! i love that song! and movie!


thanks again you guys. audrey is doing good.... she isnt cutting herself anymore and we are friends again. her parents are watching her a lot more and she goes to councling. she also seems quite a bit more happy than normal. im so glad. she scared me so much! i hope this will never happen again!

[popcornbird]

Jessica, you're a hero for telling her mom. I can tell you're a wonderful girl just from PT, but this incident convinces me that's you're great even more! Good job! I would do the same. She will realize what a great friend you are for telling later in her life.